How to Stop Being the Nice Guy – 10 Steps 2021

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sparrow jack March 22, 2021
Updated 2021/04/25 at 4:11 PM

Here is how stop being the nice guy:

11. Know The Alpha Male Body Language Tricks

The alpha dog of all alpha male body language tricks is really simple. Stand tall. It doesn’t matter if you are 5ft tall or 7 ft tall, the way you carry yourself can really have an effect on the way you think of yourself. If you slouch over and hunch your back, you are not going to feel very confident. However, if you make your back straight, pull your shoulders back and walk with your head held high, you will feel this sudden rush of confidence.

Another thing you could do to feel more like an alpha male is to master the art of the handshake. This the simplest of alpha male body language tricks and is an easy way to boost your confidence and assert yourself all at the same time.

How to Stop Being the Nice Guy – 10 Steps 2021

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10. Answer Small, Ask Big

Whether it’s: For here or to go? Where do you want to eat? Or what’s your favorite YouTube channel? If you get asked any question at all, answer it with a little bit of conviction.

The reason this is so helpful for nice guys is because it gets them in the habit of thinking about what they want, while also being more direct and less accommodating.

And if you’re looking for a pro tip to seriously boost the effectiveness of this one? Contrast your short, concise answers with kind-hearted questions and watch as that nothing-but-a nice guy persona erodes away with girls.

9. Use The Zero Expectation Approach

One path to getting girls through confidence, instead of niceness… is to find a girl you’re attracted to and approach her with zero expectation of picking her up. You may be surprised, but this trick works incredibly well for getting your head in the right place to talk to girls. The reason it works? It takes the biggest problem out of the flirting equation: expectations.

Nice guys expect “niceness” to get girls to like them, without realizing that just about every guy girls talk to meets the basic requirements of “ being nice.” So by approaching women with the goal of simply talking, instead of “getting” something, their niceness is neutralized and they can practice confident (and likely more interesting) conversation instead.

8. Lift Heavy Weights

At its core, being a nice guy is due often almost entirely to a lack of confidence. And what’s one of the best, most absolutely practical ways to gain REAL confidence? By lift weight. Specifically, by lifting heavy weights.

Now, that doesn’t mean you need to devote your life to pumping iron… or lift so heavy that you’ll hurt yourself. But the benefits of a smart lifting regimen just can’t be understated.

Not only will it do wonders for your health, appearance, and confidence but by focusing on lifting heavy weights specifically, you’ll boost your strength and baseline testosterone. Which are two things that when improved, are proven to make a guy more imposing without having to be aggressive or mean to anyone.

7. Don’t Always Side With The Girl

Another misstep nice guys never fail to take is to automatically side with the girl if there’s ever a disagreement.

Most of the time, disagreements revolve around little things, like choosing a movie or where to eat. But it’s precisely the process of always making small concessions, that plants the seeds of becoming nothing but a pushover who’s easy to get along with. So what should you do instead?

First of all, don’t disagree just to disagree but on the other hand, don’t agree, just to avoid conflict. Instead, start “light” negotiations by comparing what you both want to do, and take it from there.

6. Fit In Bro-Time

Now, if you don’t have any friends who are girls, this may not be a problem. But if you do, and you find yourself spending a lot of time with girls, not only is that a huge sign that you’re up to your eyeballs in the friend zone, but also that you’re probably playing a losing card if your intention is to get girls.

So here’s what you do. If you want to show girls you’re not just a nice guy, spend some time with your boys. It may not sound like much, but it will actually do a lot to change how girls perceive you, and how you see girls.

Just a quick break to remind you that at the end of this video, we’re going to show you the number one mistake guys make after they decide to not be a nice guy. So if you think you’re a nice guy who wants to make a change, be sure to stay tuned.

5. Don’t Keep Score

One glaring flaw that causes nearly every frustration a nice guy experiences, is keeping score of the nice things he does for girls he likes.

In their minds, they do girls a favor by being nice, and in exchange for their good behavior: they expect attention. The only thing is, all it does is set themselves up for an endless loop of kindness favors that don’t get anywhere.

So what can they do instead? Our advice is simple: be nice just to be nice, and if a girl is nice to them, just appreciate it and move on.

4. Take A Vacation

Instead of banging your head against the wall and waiting for your niceness to pay off, just try leaving for a while. Here’s the reason why this might be your best bet:

Girls will notice if you randomly adjust your behavior and try to be “less nice”… But if it happens while you’re gone, not only will you have time to actually change they’ll be excited to see you come back a new man that they can seem themselves with.

3. Be Independent

If there’s one thing so-called “alpha” types have that nice guys do not, it’s independence.

No, we’re not talking about the chest-beating tough guys, those dudes are just as guilty of letting others shape who they are as nice guys. We’re talking about guys who are self-sufficient, can handle their own, and don’t depend on being nice to get what they want.

Basically, these are the guys that nice guys and wannabe alpha types wish they were… and the kind of guy girls immediately go for.

2. Get On Your Own Schedule

Nice guys all have this in common: They spend all of their time… on the schedule of the girl they like.

The reason for this, is because they think if they’re not always there, they’ll miss their chance. This happens because they forget one hugely important detail: Girls don’t want guys just because they’re convenient. And being nearer, doesn’t actually get them any closer.

See the difference? And the worst part about it is that if they just used that time on themselves, it’s virtually guaranteed they’d be more attractive to the girl they want.

1. No FOMO

Fear of missing out. It’s a feeling that lies at the heart of every nice guy. And the main reason why they justify their behavior to themselves, they think “If I’m just there when she really needs me, she’ll finally want me.”

While that’s a nice thought, not only are the chances of that happening extremely unlikely, but they’re also drastically overestimating the impact simply “being nice” would have. Why? Because that is literally what a girl’s friends are for.

OK, so what should be done instead? First, don’t plan on capitalizing on her needing a friend to get a foot in the door. And after that, find another plan, and let her make the call if she really needs help.

The 1 Mistake Ex-Nice Guys Make

Remember when we compared mr. nice guys and those alpha-bros? Well both groups are guys at opposite ends of the spectrum with the same problem: Overcompensation.

Most nice guys eventually figure out they have a problem. And when the day finally comes for nice guys to declare their independence, what usually ends up happening is they overshoot, and abruptly become jerks to everyone. As you might guess, that typically doesn’t work any better than being overly nice.

So what can be done? If you want to be more than a nice guy, do what we talked about today, and just remember that real change takes time.

More Ways To Be An Alpha Male

Do you want more tips to know how to stop being the nice guy and knowing how to become an alpha male? Well, we have you covered.

  1. Looking smart and fresh not only has an impact on your own self-esteem but also the way she looks at you. So why not head over to our fashion tips for men guide for more?
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  3. Anxiety is the difference between being able to approach a girl and staying away. If you want to know how to overcome approach anxiety, why not check out our guide?
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