How To Flirt With A Girl Over Text – 15 Great tips 2021

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sparrow jack March 16, 2021
Updated 2021/04/23 at 11:00 AM


1. Optimize The Number Exchange

If you think about it, getting your number in each other’s phones… is your first opportunity to show her the kind of guy you are over text. And like any first impression, you definitely want to get it right.

Lucky for you, it’s not that hard to do: Along with your name, try putting in a fun (but helpful) little reminder about yourself. Maybe that’s where she met you, something you talked about, or what you looked like.

Not only will she like that you distinguished yourself from everyone else in her phone, but depending on how you put it, what you wrote will almost definitely make her smile.

2. Start A Text Conversation With A Girl

Starting a conversation with a girl over text is easier if you have some good text conversation starters in that noggin of yours.

On the other hand, if you have absolutely no idea how to start a text conversation with a girl, follow that link.

In the meantime, here are some helpful starter topics to get you started:

How To Flirt With A Girl Over Text – 15 Great tips 2021

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Starter #1: Callback

If you’re texting a girl for the first time after getting her number, make your first text a callback to a topic you discussed in person.

It shows her you paid attention to what she was saying (which a surprising number of guys don’t do!)

Starter #2: Lots Of Laughs

One of my favorite ways to start text conversations is with humor.

Sharing funny things with a girl shows her that you have a sense of humor and you like spreading it around. And who doesn’t like a person who makes them laugh?

Starter #3: Be A Sweetheart

You’ve been thinking about her, there’s no need to hide it.

Start your next conversation by letting her know (just don’t come off as creepy or desperate!)

“I need your help… I have all this work to get done but I can’t stop thinking about you.”

3. Compliment Her

Everybody loves compliments because, well… They make us feel good.

And knowing how to compliment a girl is one of the best ways to flirt with a girl over text.

We have plenty more compliments for girls, but here are a few general things you can compliment a girl on:

Compliment #1: Her Appearance

This one’s easy. Just pick something you liked about her when you saw her and tell her you liked it.

“You looked gorgeous in that dress tonight :)”

Compliment #2: Her Character

When you compliment a girl’s character, you’re telling her you respect her values and standards.

If she does something you find sexy and empowering, let her know.

Compliment #3: Her Successes

Has she been to the gym every day this week? Tell her how proud of her you are!

Girls support one another all the time (It’s extremely common in bar bathrooms at 1:00 am on a Saturday.)

And she wants a man who will do the same.

4. Say Sweet Things To Her

You can be macho all you like, but if you don’t let your soft side out every once in a while, girls won’t like you for very long.

Having some things to say to a girl to keep her interested are helpful but having sweet things to say to a girl is how you’ll get results. How do you flirt over text in the sweetest way?

Here are some example texts:

Sweet Text #1: “Seeing You Was The Best Part Of My Day.”

You can use this on a day you haven’t hung out with her too! Just turn it into a funny and flirty “haha I’m stalking you but not really” way.

Only do this if you’ve established a VERY strong camaraderie though, otherwise you might scare her off.

Sweet Text #2: “How Long Has It Been Since We’ve Hung Out? It Feels Like Years…”

sweet and flirty way of letting her know you’re thinking about her and want to see her again.

Send it to her an hour or two after spending time with her to make her smile.

Sweet Text #3: “I Can’t Sleep… Will You Come Over And Tuck Me In?”

Even if she can’t come over, it’s flirty and fun and she’ll like it.

And in the case where she does agree to tuck you in, make sure your house or apartment is sleepover-ready before you ask this.

5. Know What To Text A Girl You’re Flirting With Over Text

You can’t get to know her if you don’t know what to text a girl!

Her are some examples to get you started:

Option #1: Send Flirty Texts To Her

We have plenty of flirty texts for her in a separate article. Here are a few good ones:

“Guess which emoji I just placed next to your name in my phone.”

“Let’s make like fabric softener and snuggle.”

“I was going to wait another day to text you, but I really want to get to know you more.”

Option #1: Send Flirty Good Morning Texts For Her

Girls LOVE it when you send good morning texts. These are some great good morning texts for her:

“Good morning! I hope your day is as great as you are!”

“I’m kinda bummed I didn’t get to make breakfast in bed for you this morning.”

“Was I the only one who dreamed about us last night?”

Option #2: Send Flirty Good Night Texts For Her

Never forget to say good night to a girl you like. It’s sweet, and besides, good night texts for her might make her dream of you!

“Look at the moon! I want to share a moment with you.”

“I hope your dreams are filled with thoughts of me ;)”

“Good night! Sleep tight!”  – something simple is always a safe bet.

6. Never Send 2 Texts In A Row

It may not feel like it, but the chances are, half of the stuff you text a girl does NOT require a quick response. And no, just because she doesn’t respond right away doesn’t mean she doesn’t like you.

So instead of following up before she’s even had time to read your text, show her how patient you are and wait for her to respond before you send another one.

7. Know Your Emoji Limit

Texting is its own language. And like any language, some things can get very lost in translation. So one thing we do about that, is to use emojis to help convey the emotion behind what we’re saying. The only problem is, some guys may rely on them just a little too much.

So in order to show a girl you can actually use words, and do actually have things to say… make your emojis count and limit them to 3-4 per conversation.

8. Don’t Text Paragraphs

Want a quick way to creep a girl out and get your number blocked? Try sending her a long wall of text to read. Guys look, when it comes to flirting, not only are long texts incredibly intense, but they also show a concerning lack of basic social awareness.

So if you have something lengthy you need to tell her, do it the old fashioned way: …which is in person or on the phone.

9. Don’t Send Line-By-Line Texts

Just like you should try to never send huge blocks of texts, you should also never get in the habit of sending sentences one line at a time. This can happen when we’re trying to sound in text the same way we do in person. But instead of creating a natural back-and-forth, if your texts start stacking up, it just makes you seem kind of annoying, and make your texts hard to read.

10. Don’t Do 1-Word Responses

If you’re a man of few words, now’s the time to listen up:

Because if you’re in the habit of responding to questions using only one or two words at a time, you might be coming across as incredibly boring and unenthusiastic.

And not only could this make a girl think you’re annoyed by her texts, but it could also lead to her giving up simply because texting you isn’t any fun.

11. Never End A Text With A Period.

Your English teachers are gonna hate us for this one, but one trick that’s guaranteed to keep your texts naturally conversational and fun… is to never end your last sentence with a period.

We know, it doesn’t make any sense, right?

But if you really look at it… ending your texts on a period actually makes you seem rigid and uptight. So for now,

hold off on using impeccable grammar, loosen up and ditch some of those periods.

12. Make Sure She Got Home OK

Not only is this an incredibly considerate gesture in general, but because it’s quick and casual, doing it via text message is ideal for when you’re just getting to know a girl.

So after your girl heads home for the night, take the opportunity to show her you care… and send her a brief, thoughtful text making sure all is well.

13. Be Aware Of Texting At Night

We all know that texting in the middle of the night generally only means one thing…

But if you’re just getting to know a girl, and she’s not the one texting on the late night, DON’T think that you have to be the one to do it.

Because unless she’s made it clear that texting late would probably be OK, you really don’t know how she’s going to respond. So instead, let her be the one to text you after hours, or just wait to text until the next morning.

How To Flirt With A Girl Over Text To Ask Her Out

If the conversation flows naturally thanks to your impeccable flirting skills and all the signs point to her being interested in you, you already have a date in the bag… You just have to ask her out.

But what if you don’t know how to ask a girl out over text?

If you’ve ever asked yourself, “how do you flirt over text?” to ask someone out, worry no more! We’ve got you covered.

Do It Quickly

Remember: The quicker you ask her out, the better, so why make a big deal out of it? The worst thing that’ll happen is she’ll say no… And since you haven’t spent too much time and effort (and money!) getting to know her, the only thing you’ll really lose is some self-esteem.

And that comes back easily if you keep working on yourself.

Keep It Casual

Another thing to remember is that flirting is supposed to be light-hearted and fun. And if you’re being too serious in your flirting she’s going to be uncomfortable and it will be MUCH harder to get her to agree to a date.

So when you ask her out…

Make It Relevant To What You’re Talking About

If you’re talking about food:

“Oh there’s this really great Thai restaurant you’d really like. Wanna go Thursday?”

If you’re talking about the outdoors:

“The weather is supposed to be nice on Saturday. Let’s rent bikes at the park!”

If she’s telling you about her favorite place:

“That sounds awesome! We should go some time!”

By linking it to what you’re already talking about, it’s naturally more casual. And by picking a specific day, you’ll be able to find out if she actually wants to hang out with you.


She’ll reschedule if she’s busy and say yes if she isn’t. It’s fail-proof.

14. Know How To Tell If A Girl Likes You Over Text

There are countless signs a girl likes you that you’ve probably missed (I know I have!)

And that’s why you need to learn how to tell if a girl likes you over text!

Here are a few signs to memorize:

Sign #1: Her Responses Are Thoughtful

If a girl is responding to your texts in a thoughtful and meaningful way, she definitely likes you.

Sign #2: She Responds To Your Texts Quickly

Have you ever had a texting conversation that’s so good that you’re both firing responses back and forth like lightning?

She’s into you.

Sign #3: She Talks About Things She’s Always Wanted To Do

This one can be hard to notice, but if a girl tells you about an event or activity she’s always wanted to try…

… She wants you to take her to do that thing. Make it a surprise!

15. Don’t Wait Too Long To Ask Her Out

These days texting is a huge part of courting a woman.

So if a girl asks you to text her, or you already are texting her, that pretty much mean it’s OK for you to ask her out… and texting provides a perfect way to do just that.

So before you go talking about everything over text, ask her out… and talk face-to-face instead.

What To Do When She Doesn’t Text Back After Flirting Over Text

So she didn’t text back after you’ve been flirting? It’s probably not as bad as you think (unless you said something stupid.)

Even though our phones are glued to our bodies most of the time, it’s not always the case. Life happens.

So if she doesn’t text back, give it some time! She’ll come back around.

Unless of course she’s lost interest and your flirting hasn’t worked… In which case, she won’t text back at all, so text her something along the lines of:

“Hey, did you not get that last text?”

Her response will let you know how she feels about you, but if she doesn’t respond, don’t get rude with her. Try:

“Is this not working out for you?”

This forces her to respond and tell you the truth or… Completely ghost you.

Whatever she decides to do, that doesn’t mean you’re not a catch. Just that you might need to work on some things, or she wasn’t right for you in the first place.

The only way to find out is to talk to other girls.

More Steps On How To Get The Girl

Break away from your phone screen and learn to meet girls in real life!

  1. The hardest part of meeting women is knowing how to approach a girl. We can help.
  2. Learning how to ask a girl out will only get you more dates. Check it out!
  3. Learn how to talk to girls to ensure your conversations in real life are as good as they are via texting.
  4. Once things get more serious, use some of these love messages for her.
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