7 Steps for a Highly-Romantic At-Home Date 2021

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sparrow jack March 24, 2021
Updated 2021/04/14 at 5:51 AM

Here are 4 quick things you need to do:

1. Your Living Conditions Say A Lot About You. Make Them Say Nice Things.

Before you do anything, clean your house thoroughly. Do the dishes, make sure the bathroom is fresh/fully stocked, and clean your bedroom. And most importantly: get rid of any weird smells (start by doing your dirty laundry and taking out the trash).

2. Transform Your Table Into One She’d That Find At A Romantic Restaurant

You don’t need much. The essentials are a nice tablecloth, comfortable seating, and quality dishes/silverware. These few things are what makes an ordinary night so special… so don’t skimp. If you don’t have any of these essential items, either suck it up and buy them or ask a friend to help you out.

Pro tip: add a candle to the middle of the table + a vase with a flower in it (the vase doesn’t have to be fancy… and you can pick a flower from outside).

7 Steps for a Highly-Romantic At-Home Date 2021


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3. Set Up Your Drinks + Bar

All you really need is two decent bottles… one red, one white. It’s classic/classy, and it gives her an option. Now, if you want to step it up, get things for cocktails (just stick to one or two classic cocktails (like an old-fashionedMartini, or Negroni)). 

Pro tip: make the cocktail for yourself while you’re cleaning up the house. That way you’ll know what you’re doing, plus it’ll help you loosen up before the date (just make sure it’s not too strong).

4. Make A Romantic-Dinner-Date Playlist

What’s dinner without some alluring music? Go with low-key instrumental music or better yet, play music that matches the cuisine you’re serving.

Pro tip: since the dinner I recommend making below is Italian, go with some Italian violin classics or someone like Frank Sinatra, Dean Martin, or Michael Bublé.

Step #2: Grow Her The Appetizer + Herbs

Guys… not only do women love a man who can cook, but they love a man who can grow something.

So, for the perfect at-home date, combine the two: grow her the appetizer and herbs.

Now: I know you’re thinking “I’m not a gardener” or “That’s way too hard”… but with hydroponic growing, it’s simple, affordable, and incredibly easy. To grow food in your own home, all you (basically) have to do is plant seeds, move them to your hydroponic system, and turn it on (I’ve been using one for the past few months (this one), and from here on, I will always have something hydroponically growing at my house).

So… what should you grow for your romantic at-home date?

1) The appetizer (a salad)lettuce is super easy to grow hydroponically (it’s one of the most commonly grown hydroponic vegetables). It’s perfect for an at home date because you can quickly pick it, wash it, and serve it (all while she watches in admiration).

2) The meal’s herbs: Both fresh basil/parsley make a great garnish for pasta dishes (I recommend making pasta in Step #3). Pick the one you think you’ll use more.

Step #3: Cook Her An (Easy) Three-Course Meal

First… why should you cook for her?

Well, #1: studies show that women are more attracted to a man when he’s working in the kitchen, than when he’s doing stereo-typically ‘manly’ things (like using a hammer or drill)… and #2, and even better: you don’t need to be a Michelin-star chef to create a mouthwatering meal that you’ll both enjoy.

See… by keeping the meal/dishes simple, you can make something that’s not only tasty, but that also looks impressive and difficult to make.

Here’s an easy and delicious three-course meal:

1. Start With A Salad (As An Appetizer)

Make a salad that has a name, like a Caesar, Cobb, or Greek (to keep the same theme throughout the meal, I suggest Caesar).

For the salad’s lettuce, see Step #2 above… and for the dressing, just buy a pre-made one. And remember: presentation matters, so make sure your salad is served in a nicer, bigger bowl, with tongs for serving.

2. For The Main Course, Make Pasta

Not only does Italian food have that romantic allure, but making a good pasta (from scratch) is also surprisingly simple.

Now: can you cook spaghetti, then pour a jar of pre-made sauce over it? Yes… but come on. That’s neither romantic, nor impressive to her… and it usually doesn’t taste that good. And when you keep it simple, making it from scratch is also relatively easy… so why wouldn’t you?

Here are my 3 favorite, beginner-friendly pasta dishes:

Pro tip: the key to good Italian pasta is… 1) patience, 2) high-quality extra virgin olive oil (TJs has a few great ones), and 3) real, non-Kraft, Parmesan cheese.

3. Finish With A Dead-Simple Dessert

You can definitely make something if you want… but I would suggest a store-bought dessert for two reasons: 1) making a full meal + desert can come off as trying too hard, and 2) it’s so much easier.

So… I suggest something simple and basic, but that’s still really good. Here are 2 ideas (that go well with the meal):

  1. Ice cream with fresh berries
  2. Frozen cheesecake

Step #4: Go For An After-Dinner Stroll

Okay, so this isn’t technically in your house, but I’m counting it anyways…. because, we’ve all been there:

You just enjoyed a hearty meal (like a bowl of great pasta) and you’re feeling sleepy, lazy, and lethargic. And while it’s completely normal to feel tired after eating, it’s not exactly the best transition into your special date-night activity.

So… go for a quick, relaxing walk together. This not only helps prevent you from falling into that post-meal fog, but it also helps with digestion and gets your blood flowing. source

Pro tip: have a destination in mind, within 15-20 minutes of your home. It doesn’t need to be anything special… just a spot where you can sit, talk, and watch the sun set or gaze at the stars. A local park is a great option. Pro pro tip: Bring a blanket and a bottle of wine.

Step #5: Play A Game (Activity Idea#1)

A little friendly competition can really bring two people together… and games are a great at-home date activity for 2 reasons:

Reason #1: a good game is the perfect backdrop for relaxed, casual conversation (see the pro tip below)… and reason #2: games are not only one of the most fun things to do with a girl, but they’re also one of the most underrated/underused.

Here are some of my favorite two-person game options:

  1. Speed 2 (card game)
  2. Sequence (board game)
  3. Stratego (board game)


A game is great for both newer couples and more long-term couples… but is not the best on your first few dates (especially your first or second).

Pro tip: while you’re playing, ask her some funny conversation starters or funny questions to get to know her. It’ll keep the mood lively, and by the end of the night you’ll both know each other better and have a more understanding, deeper bond.

Step #6: Get Artistic (Activity Idea #2)

An artistic activity is a great choice because not only is it unique/not something she’ll expect… but it’s also something a lot guys don’t want to do (and when you do something that you don’t want to… for her, it’s a highly-romantic, sweet thing to do).

…And as an added bonus, creating some sort of art/craft together gives her a physical reminder of that special night.

Here are 2 of my favorite artistic, at-home activities:

  1. Painting. Buy a couple easels, canvases, some paint, and some brushes… and go to town (you can make it more fun by doing portraits of each other).
  2. Ceramics. Get self-hardening clay (like this one) and use your fingers to mold and shape.


This activity should really be reserved for more long-term couples. The reason why? If you set up both the romantic dinner above and this creative activity… it comes can come off as way too much for a new relationship.

Pro tip: just like above, ask her some conversation starters for couples, or good questions to ask your girlfriend. These will create a lively conversation and add a fun secondary activity, on top of your more artistic one.

Step #7: Activities To Avoid (Bad Activity Ideas)

Guys… we’re going for the perfect, romantic, at-home dinner date… so there are a few activities that you absolutely don’t want to do:

  1. Movies/TV. Did you know that average American wastes about 5 hours/day watching TV? Be better, and show her you’re better.
  2. Clean up. This is meant to emulate a romantic date night out. Do you do the dishes when you go to a restaurant? No… so leave them for tomorrow.
  3. Not having an activity planned. If you don’t have a fun thing to do with your girlfriend planned, not only does this make it less of a ‘date’, but you’ll also likely end up wasting the rest of the night on your computers/phones (which is neither romantic, nor a date).

And those all make sense, right?

Again, we want this to be a special, romantic night… so don’t do something that you wouldn’t do on a non-at-home date.

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